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90Poems About Loss Of Loved Ones
How can you find the right words to express how you feel about the loss of a loved one? A parent, a granparent, a brother, a friend....
Recently I was again reminded of how precious life is when my best friend's mother passed away.
My friend and I have been friends since we were about seven and we have shared so much of our lives with each other.
Her mother was a wonderful lady and like a second mother to me.
Through watching and participating in the plans for the funeral arrangements I became acutely aware of what things mattered the most.
There were the flowers, the pamphlets, the writing of the eulogy, the choosing of the music, but the one thing that stood out the most was the need to find something fitting, beautiful and comforting to say that expressed what the family felt at this time, and what would be a lasting tribute to their loved ones memory.
They decided to use a memorial poem.
There are literally hundreds of beautiful poems about the loss of loved ones but after a couple of days looking through a considerable collection, they decided on this one by Henry Scott Holland.
All Is Well
Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always use
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Healing Process
The actual process of finding this poem was something that also really helped the family.
Going through all the poems, reading them, understanding them, identifying with them, helped them a lot through this trying time.
It got me thinking back to a time when I was thirteen.
I had just lost my beloved grandmother and I was having a hard time accepting the loss as we had been very close.
I remember one night trying to piece together the whole "loss" thing, and even though I knew I couldn't see her anymore, I still felt very strongly that she was with me....and still do to this day.
So that night I sat down and wrote a poem to my grandmother.....and even though it was so long ago now, I still remember it.
I'm certainly no poet, but it made me realize the power and comfort memorial poetry can have whether you write it yourself, or if you are just reading someone else's.
To My Grandma
My eyes can no longer see your smile,
Yet my heart still feels its warmth
My ears can no longer hear your voice,
Yet your words of wisdom are etched into every day
I can no longer hold your hand,
Yet it still guides my every step
What we see, hear, touch is only temporary
What we feel and learn and love is eternal...
You are always with meReading a poem or verse at a funeral
This can be a very daunting task. But if you practice before hand it can help.
My friend didn't say the eulogy at her mother's funeral but she did deliver the poem.
She practiced reading the poem quite a few times before hand, both by herself with a tape recorder and in front of the family.She also found it helpful to rewrite the text in a fashion where certain words were bolder or written phonetically in sections where she wanted to give emphasis or with words she tended to trip up on.Having someone stand by your side when you speak can also give you a little more security and support.- Eulogy Help
Very helpful information in step by step fashion on how to write and deliver a eulogy - Poem For Parents Funeral
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Making Plans
My own Mother has been in and out of hospital for cancer operations over the last ten years. She's thankfully in remission at the moment.
Before the first time she went into hospital she called me aside and said that she had a envelope in her dresser, which had a list of requests she would like at her funeral.
This wasn't exactly the sort of thing I wanted to hear, or even talk about with her as she entered hospital for major surgery, but as she wasn't sure whether she would be coming home she had put some thought into what poems, bible verses and music she would like at her funeral.Every time she has gone into hospital, she reminds me of the envelope.
Even though it's something I don't like thinking about, the fact that I know it's there is comforting in a way.....and it was a very kind and considerate thing to do for her family.- How to Move On After the Death of a Loved One
- Karina Long's Healing Songs
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to sheldon... In times like this when you have hit rock bottom, God is there for you and can comfort you. I know you may be angry and not understand things, but cry out to Him for help and He will comfort you. Drinking is not going to solve anything and is especially not fair to the miracle baby growing inside you. You need to be the best mother to your child as your mom was to you. I would suggest talking with someone at a church. Just visit the church office and talk with the pastor. You never know what good things God has for your future.
I know how hard it is to lose a Mother, God said, I will never put more on you than you can bare. He's words are so true. When I get down and find myself thinking how much I missed my Mom, I look back on the good times we shared, she was not only my Mother, she was my best friend.I look back on all the things we shared and the fun we had, it lighten the pain.I can smile about the things we did together.
It was one of the hardest things I have every gone through, but I have a feeling of peace now when I think, she is no longer in pain.I felt it would have been shefish of me to want to keep her, with all the pain she was in.
Now when I think of her with a smile on my face, she won the battle. She is will never know pain ever again, and for that I think God.
I am not saying to forget her, just look at all the fond memorys she left you, and I think you will be able to smile on so many of the memorys she left you.
She will always have a special place in your heart that no one can ever fill and that will carry you through you greving. LOOK BACK ON THE GOOD TIMES AND THANK GOD FOR GIVING YOU SUCH A WONDERFUL MOTHER.
I think God sent you a baby to help you through the loss of your mom. May God Bless, and bring you peace.
Lost my son 5 week's ago,Can't cope at all,Getting absolutely no support from anyone,Would feel better away.
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Ellie:
i cannot believe that people have been so unsupportive in your time of need. know that God is with you where ever you go as is your son and look to them both for support knowing your son is in a better place than this
This is my first kiss and the starting my love.
What i never felt before, in the end coming to me
I lost my older brother it was sad when they put him in the ground most time it feels like he is here but sometimes i feel alone..my teacher ask the class to write two chants mine was called"my superhero was you"its sad my friend texted me and said shes crying i had foregot i posted it she said the poem i was like o....i was feeling down and sad so i went to google.com and put in poems about loved ones that past away and i found one it made me cry its called "When tomorrow starts with out me"it made me feel alonelike i do all the time....
i know how to hard loss my mother 10 months ago and she passed away from cancer so make me cry and can't without with my loving mother....i always love my mother in my whole forever...irly mom.....
I know how u feel I lost my mom 6 months ago from cancer
my baby brother was murdered two years ago...his birthday is tomorrow and he would have been 23. still find it hard to believe he's gone
Dear Ellie,.I am so saddened to hear you are not getting any support,.you need it,..and deserve it. You must go and look for support,..talk about it,..do not be alone. People love you,..I do,..and I appreciate your honestly in opening up about this. Please know that your son is a wonderful angel looking down on you,..his Mom and will protect you and watch over you forever hon,..love Lois
This song is beautiful, i didnt stop crying the whole time listening. I too lost my mother on September 17, 2009, the hardest thing i have had to go through. May all your loved ones and my mother continue to rest in PARADISE!! God bless you all!!
My dearest friend, who was the mom I never had, died, Dec 9, 2011. She fought ovarian cancer for 3+yrs when she should've only lasted a few months. I loved her for only 7yrs but it seems a lifetime. She was only 56. I can't share my grief, cuz we only had 1 mutual aquantaintance. Her sweet 12y/o grandtr that she raised alone: is now w/ a schizophrenic dad, gone super religious, & she's having step brother/sisters born every 10months. Her 'parents' are moving her out to the country, so I'll never even see her again. It's a dual loss. I know Candace is in heaven, but my faith is shaken, that God wouldn't heal her, til she could finish raising her multi-art talented, smart grandtr. The girl is not allowed any of those activities now. I can't grieve, cuz I have to move forward, work, raise my own teen. I did cry, a lot, withdrew. Barely worked @ job. Didn't help. I can't hear her, feel her. Only pain inside. I do pray. For strength, to be a better mom. But, still, I'm mad@ God. How could He take Candace? We need her, here...
I love these, they are excellent
Beautiful expression. Very helpful for present felt grief. Thank you.
Wonderful words were uttered here. I feel the emotion.
i feel so sad for you sorry for your lose
Very powerful words when it comes to our beloved ones when they are not here with.I feel it when I read it and it makes me want to cry, because I feel the emotion in what all the words have been express out..
I lost my brother due to a terrible car accident that was due to my bf at the time. We were engaged to be married on valentine's day of 1995. My heart told me not to go through with the wedding....so I didn't and 2 days later he wrecked with my brothers in his car because he was upset with me. He ran off the road on purpose and hit a tree head on. My brother was 15 and he died exactly 2 months before his 16th bday. I still believe til this day that GOD was warning me that this was going to happen. I know he was upset with me and my brothers and him were close still. I still ask myself one question??? I know I broke his heart but why would he take something I cherish dearly away from me forever. A broken heart will mend but the loss of my brother which feels I lost my own child we were so so close and still hurts today like it was yesterday. I thank GOD he warned me but I wish i could have my lil brother back. I'm so miserable over this and its been almost 17 years ago.
my grandfather passed a way before i was born i never got to meet him its very sad i wish i could of peaple always say he was a great guy ,i wish i got to meet him.
I am losing my younger sister to cancer,\i have already lost my husband of 43 years to cancer,It really hit me hard and my children and grandchildren just could not understand how this could hsppen to him.
Bless my mom's heart[90]yrs. old and wants to take my sister's place.
i lost 3 loved ones in a mater of 3 y and the most recent one was jauary of 2012
Hi im 32 this july and lost my twin one week before our sixteenth birthday to suicide..theres not one day i dont cry inside and on the outside..the other half of me from our first days first steps first words to first days at kindy primary intermediate an so on..its so lonely..she and i lost our older brother the same way .few years l
Beautiful and thank you!!! I have lost so many loved ones in my life and I probably have quite a few more years to live (I hope) so it's kind of scary to think about how many more I may lose...and which ones. We will be blessed enough to see them one day and all of the memories will be alive again!
Sheldon 3 years ago
I recently lost my mom on June 1st 08. Of course I was sad and angry about her passing away from cancer. However I never really cried or let it show to others how much I am hurting inside. Thanksgiving just passed, and now Christmas is drawing near. I am becoming self destructive and angrier than ever. I cant explain why but I blow up over the smallest things. I have crashed both of our cars. I get drunk, get into fights, come home not remembering any of it the next morning, only to see that I wrecked the car. How long will I continue this??? Until I kill myself??? I dont know if I want to die or what. I feel like I am going to self distruct. I feel like so much emotion and pain is bottled up inside of me waiting for a reason to spew out like a volcano. I have a new baby on the way. It would have been my moms first grandchild. She will never get to see it now. It pisses me off! Will I not stop this path I am on until I mess everything in my life up??? I need help...